Friday, January 06, 2012

Don't Mess with my Baby!

I got a phone call today from Mr. A - the boys' principal.  He called to let me know that Camden had been pushed and had bumped his head, but that he was okay.  Then he told me who pushed was a classmate (S.).  Well, Camden and and a few students (S and M) have been having trouble for a while now.  I never really thought too much about bullying until this year.  A few weeks ago, S tried to push him off the playscape at recess.  S has been spoken to numerous times by Mrs. J (their teacher) and Camden has been in tears more than once about S's actions towards him.  There have been numerous little incidents all year, and the problem seems to be escalating {Insert Mama Bear Angry Voice}

Now, I know some are probably thinking a few

1.  This is happening because he is in a public school. You should have kept homeschooling him.  Actually, these types of things happen in Christian schools and Charter schools, too.  Homeschool was not the best option for our family right now, but that's an entirely different post.

2.  He's not really being bullied, it's part of being a kid.  Yes, some teasing is part of childhood.  I think what is going on here has taken on a different vibe than just plain old teasing.

3.  Camden is too sensitive.  Well, yes he is sensitive. However, being incessantly teased and pushed and poked and bumped get the picture.  It's not right.

Well, I set aside my Angry Mama Bear Voice and was polite to Mr. A on the phone.  What I really want to do is drive up to the school and stake out the school and tell S and S's parents that this will not be tolerated by the Angry Mama Bear.  Don't worry, I won't do that.

I will, however, continue to teach and coach my son on how to respond to others that are mean and spiteful.  I will teach him that those kids are just as important to their Creator as he is.  I will teach him that character means responding correctly in these types of situations.  I will teach him that standing up for himself is perfectly acceptable.  I will teach him that no matter what these kids say, being smart is NOT a bad thing.  I will teach him that he is loved, and that sometimes loving those that are not kind is difficult.


Wednesday, January 04, 2012

2011 Year in Review

I haven't done this since December of 2009 but I thought it would be good to take a look at this past year. Besides, I really like the idea and want to keep up with it.  So, here is 2011 in Review:

1. What did you do in 2011 that you'd never done before?

We made a summer bucket list and tried to squeeze as much into our summer as possible.  It was a blast!

2. Did you keep your New Year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Last New Year's was really hard, so I don't remember making any resolutions other than just getting through life one day at a time.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

My sister-in-law, Kristin, had Cal in March.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

My Grandpap Shaffer passed away on our anniversary, June 24.  

5. What countries did you visit?

None other than our own :)  Joel and I went to SC in May for a wedding.

6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2011?

A ministry where we can serve vocationally.

7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

Jan. 9 and 16 - our last 2 Sundays at our old church.  

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Finishing our first (and only?) year of homeschooling.

9. What was your biggest failure?

You always wonder how you will handle trials when they come.  I must say that I didn't handle this one very well....but God is good and gives grace!
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Not really, just still working through thyroid stuff.
11. What was the best thing you bought?

We took a trip to Greenville, SC in May for a wedding....while a trip isn't an object, it was the first getaway for Joel and I in a very long time, and we needed it!  So, it was the best money spent this year.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?

Joel's - He works harder now (physically) than he ever had to in our first 10 1/2 years of marriage.  He provides for us and leads us.  I'm thankful for a husband that desires to please God, even when the road is difficult.

13. Where did most of your money go?

Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan - this is the first time we've had to pay our own healthcare premiums....yuck!

14. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Finding a new church to call home for a while.  We are thankful for Maranatha and the healing balm it has been to us.

15. What song will always remind you of 2011?

There are does wonders for my soul!  Here are a few....
**Beneath the Cross (Getty) - this was the song Joel sang our last night at Macomb
**Still, My Soul Be Still (Getty) - the Chorus says "God,you are my God and I will trust in you and not be shaken."

16. Compared to this time last year, are you happier or sadder?

Happier - God has shown Himself mighty in so many ways.  Yes, this year has been tough...but I know He is in control.  2011 had some rough days, but there were lots of great days too!

17. What do you wish you'd done more of?

Moving (LOL) but I know that is coming....

18. What do you wish you'd done less of?

Looking at job boards and ministry listings....but I know there is a reason why God hasn't given us a new ministry yet.
19. What was your favorite TV program?

We like Blue Bloods and NCIS.

20. What was the best book you read?

Loving the Little Years - helped keep things in perspective

21. What was your favorite film of this year?

Ramona and Beezus - it was an instant family favorite

22. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?

Blend in!!

23. What kept you sane?

Sending my kids back to school.

24. What political issue stirred you the most?

No one issue...just gearing up for the onslaught of political ads.